Mother’s Day Memories

As Mother’s Day draws near, you may be reflecting on your experiences so far as a mother and thinking about your own mother as well. Each of us has a unique relationship with our children, which may be influenced by our own mothers. Before you sit back and enjoy being celebrated on Mother’s Day, it’s a good time to think about how you want to be remembered as a mom.

In 25 years when your children are adults, how do you want to be remembered on Mother’s Day? If you’re not living out those qualities, make some changes so you are the mom you want your kids to have. Which of these memories do you want to create?

Mother’s Day MemoriesFun and Spontaneous: Structure and schedules may keep your lives sane but memories are made from fun and spontaneous moments. Whether it’s a stop off at an ice cream shop before dinner or a surprise trip to Disney World, adding fun and spontaneity to your days will bring joy and smiles to everyone in your family. You can achieve this in small ways every day by breaking out in song when the mood strikes you or turning a chore into a game.

Love of Learning: Your kids may not appreciate all the random facts you share but they will enjoy being smart cookies. If you want to be remembered for all the knowledge you impart on your kiddos, find clever ways to incorporate learning into your everyday lives. Turn following a yummy recipe into a math lesson. Chart the weather in your city. Practice science experiments at home. Keep a map handy to talk about different places in the world when they come up in conversation. And of course, read about everything and encourage your children to ask why.

Seeking Adventure:  For the adventure-loving mom, spread your free spirit to your kids by involving them in your wild journeys. From backyard adventuring (think camp outs and scavenger hunts) to travel across the globe, your little ones will remember your adventurous nature. Risk-taking is a hard skill for some kids to learn, but you can help your kids safely take risks through adventure activities.

Leader in your Community: Whether it’s school, a scout troupe, a religious organization or a community group, demonstrating your leadership skills is something your kids will remember. Getting involved to make your world (in the most micro or macro sense) a better place can be ingrained in children at a young age. Show your kids how people coming together can make a difference. It’s a memory they will carry with them and probably emulate in their own lives as well.

Fostering Independence: Mother’s are usually nurturing by nature and that’s a wonderful thing. We’re hard-wired to be a safe and secure “home” for our children. But fostering independence will also serve them well in life. Making mistakes in the name of learning and teaching your children to be resourceful are necessary skills for productive citizens of the world. That’s not to say you have to choose tough love if that’s not your way. However setting your kids on a path to independence is a gift they will remember and thank you for in the future.

We wish you a very happy Mother’s Day full of beautiful memories – both the ones you have from your past and the ones you choose to create.

8 Ways to Pamper Yourself this Mother’s Day, with Baby in Tow

With a new baby attached to your hip (and sometimes breast) you may need to incorporate your little tot in your Mother’s Day plans.  But don’t worry, there are plenty of things you can do to pamper yourself this Mother’s Day even with baby in tow.  Not sure how to do it?  Check out our list of things you can do on Mother’s Day with your baby:

Have an in-home spa or salon treatment:  Bringing your baby to a spa or salon is probably not your idea of relaxation.  With all the noise and smells, a hair cut or mani/pedi with your baby in tow probably wouldn’t go over too well.  If you’re due for a treatment, pay a little extra to have someone come to you for some much-needed pampering.  This way you can schedule it during your baby’s naptime, or at least if you have to tend to your baby every once in awhile it won’t be a big deal.

active mother joggingExercise:  Finding time to exercise can be hard but you should make a point to do it on Mother’s Day if working out is a stress-reliever for you.  You can incorporate your baby in a variety of physical activities including walking or jogging, water aerobics, yoga or baby weight lifting.  Your baby will have a blast being part of your exercise routine!

Garden:  Gardening is cathartic to many people and it is certainly a wonderful springtime activity.  Enjoy time with your baby while you garden by letting her dig in the dirt alongside you.  Studies show it’s actually good for babies to be exposed to natural bacteria found in soil.  Show your baby how to dig holes and drop in colorful bulbs.  Sharing your passion for gardening with your baby can be a lifelong hobby you partake in together.

Have a playdate with your friends and their kids:  Since most people will reserve Mother’s Day for family time, invite a close friend over to play with her kids.  Spending time with mom friends while also hanging out with your baby is a terrific way to celebrate on Mother’s Day.  Perhaps dads can even take care of the meal to let moms sit back and relax with the kiddos.

Visit a museum:  Mother’s Day is a super day to visit a museum you’ve wanted to explore.  Even if it isn’t meant for kids, you can describe the exhibits to your baby to keep her engaged and entertained.  She may learn a few things from the cultural experience too.  Just be sure to check on the hours of operation as some museums aren’t open on Sundays and some will be closed for Mother’s Day.

Read:  Reading may be a hobby you have little time for these days.  Pick up where you left off in your favorite novel this Mother’s Day and read it aloud to your baby.  You can do this while holding your little one or while she’s bouncing about in her favorite chair.  Although she won’t know what you’re reading about, hearing a diversity of words will help her eventual language development.

Take a bubble bath:  Remember when you used to lounge in a luxurious bubble bath for relaxation?  Now you’re probably lucky if you catch a 2-minute shower everyday.  Pamper yourself this Mother’s Day with a bubble bath with your baby.  Use baby-safe bubble soap and plop your baby in the tub with you.  She’ll surely love getting to bathe with mommy as you spend quality time together in the suds.

Pick up from your favorite restaurant:  A romantic dinner with your hubby may be out of the question but you can still enjoy your favorite meal from your favorite restaurant.  Pre-order and pick up the food for a fun family dinner in your own private dining room.

We hope you take advantage of some of these ideas to include your baby as you pamper yourself this Mother’s Day!

A Mother’s Love Travels from Generation to Generation

Like a cherished family heirloom, a mother’s love travels from generation to generation.  Although it is not tangible like a wedding gown passed from grandmother to mother to daughter, a mother’s unconditional love is woven in her children as part of their very beings and is then passed along to future generations in her family.

Parenting young children is a huge responsibility, not only in the present but also as your children grow into adolescents and adults and perhaps eventually start their own families.  How you parent your little loves now can have a big influence on the type of people they become.  The values, habits and traditions you instill in your kids are passed along to future generations too. As Mother’s Day approaches it’s a great time to think about the “gifts of self” your mother has given you and what you’re now passing down to your children.

Happy young mother with little daughter on field in summer dayA mother’s love encompasses so many gifts.  At the top of the list are values or a code of ethics by which to live.  Values guide families with a sense of conduct that is right and wrong and help them make endless personal decisions they face every day.  Values can include kindness, compassion, honesty, respect and peace, as well as challenge, knowledge, creativity, faith and optimism among many others.  When mothers model behaviors and actions that align with her values and incorporate them into how she raises her children, she is making a lasting impression.  As her daughter one day becomes a mother and her son a father, their families will continue to celebrate these same values.

Just as values are passed down to future generations, the same is true of habits and traditions.  Instilling healthy habits in your children is a wonderful way to help protect them and their eventual children down the road.  Healthful eating, regular exercise, personal hygiene, getting routine check-ups, avoiding toxins (including smoking and excessive drinking) and other healthy lifestyle habits are all aspects of healthy generations you can start right now with your kids.

Family traditions are a wonderful way to leave your legacy as a mother on your family.  Perhaps you are carrying on traditions from generations past and adding a few new ones for the next generations of your family.  Holding on to traditions connects us in invaluable ways: it helps us make lasting family memories, allows us to practice and celebrate our values, and they are comforting and meaningful.  While you may never meet your great-great-great-granddaughter, she will always hold a piece of you in her heart through family traditions.

Mothering today is actually mothering many future generations in your family.  A mother’s love literally “runs in the family.”  So make every day of motherhood count in shaping the lives of your children and generations to come.

A New Mom’s Mother’s Day Wish List

A New Mom’s Mother’s Day Wish List

Whether you are trying to create your own Mother’s Day wish list or you are looking for the perfect thing to give the new mom in your life, we’ve got 8 fantastic ways to celebrate a new mom on Mother’s Day.

She’s been through a lot these past few months between wrapping up her pregnancy, giving birth and sustaining the precious life of a baby and the entire family.  She deserves a special day full of things she loves.  Creating a wonderful Mother’s Day is really about love and doesn’t need to be expensive or extravagant.  In fact, some of the best gifts are free.  Most moms are much more impressed with thoughtfulness, creativity and individuality than throwing tons of money into a frivolous present.

Consider these warm and caring gifts for any new mom’s Mother’s Day wish list this year:

Make her favorite meal.  If the mom in your household does most of the cooking, she’ll be grateful to spend a day out of the kitchen.  And she may get a kick out of seeing you in the kitchenon her behalf.  Think about her favorite things to eat and whip up something scrumptious for her Mother’s Day meal.  If you are simply hopeless in the kitchen, at least make the effort to buy her favorite dish to serve on her special day.

Complete one thing on her to-do list.  Moms love to check things off their to-do list.  How about checking one off for her?  Without saying a word, do a load of laundry, pluck the weeds or organize the pantry.  She will be thrilled and you will feel accomplished too, a double win.

Pamper her like she pampers everyone else.  Just like she diapers, bathes, feeds, kisses and showers everyone in your family with love and affection, give her the same luxurious experience on her own level.  Yes, we’re talkin’ about the spa!  A whole day of treatments isn’t necessary, but one massage, mani/pedi or facial would be a great way to pamper mom like she pampers your family.

Deliver joy all year long.  Getting a package of goodies every month is something a new mom can look forward to.  Purchase a monthly “club” that delivers something indulgent every month.  There are tons of options for monthly deliveries ranging from fruit of the month, snacks and wine, to flowers, teas and t-shirts.  Find something she’ll enjoy so she can open a box of happiness every month.

A New Mom’s Mother’s Day Wish ListMake her feel sexy.  New moms often feel less than desirable after having a baby and spending her time taking care of one.  Between baby weight, showerless days and smelling like spit-up, she may not feel sexy and in the mood.  If you’re hoping to spice things up in the bedroom, buy the new mom in your life a sassy nursing bra and let her know how beautiful she is wearing it.

Organize and frame baby pictures.  New parents are constantly snapping photos of their adorable bundles of joy.  But what to do with all the pics?  Help mom organize them into month-by-month files and print and frame a few of the best ones.

Let her sleep.  Take the baby off her hands for a feeding or two so she can sleep-in or simply take a nap.  If she’s breastfeeding, bring her the baby at the appropriate time or give a bottle of breast milk if that suits your family.  Letting mom catch some zzz’s is priceless in the first few months.

Make it personal.  Most moms, and women in general, really want to know you care.  More than expensive jewelry, doing or buying something small and thoughtful goes a long way.  Perhaps it’s a locket with your new family portrait.  Maybe it’s downloading a playlist of her favorite songs onto her ipod.  You could give her personalized matching pillows for the family.  Anything that holds meaning to your new growing family will be a wonderful gesture of love.

Spend time together.  Being together as a family is a terrific Mother’s Day present.  Plan a fun activity that everyone will enjoy.  It can be as simple as an outing to a park or visiting a garden or museum.  Whatever your family likes to do together makes a happy Mother’s Day for all.

We hope you’ve been inspired with some good ideas from our new mom’s Mother’s Day wish list.  Happy Mother’s Day!

Mother’s Day: What Gifts SpokesMom Danah Bordner Gives to her Daughters

Danah's daughter Taylor is excited to be a big sisterLoving Moments by Leading Lady SpokesMom Danah Bordner loves being a part of the LPGA tour and makes every effort to travel with her family to tournaments if possible. For Mother’s Day, Bordner shares which parts of Motherhood make the biggest impressions on her daughter Taylor, and what steps Bordner can take to ensure that both of her daughters are raised with the best values. We hope you get a chance to relax this Mother’s Day Danah, you’ve definitely earned it!

Being a mom is hard work, and being a working mom is even harder. It is truly a juggling act balancing my tour commitment with parenting, but I have to remind myself that nothing is ever more important than the love and wisdom I can give my child.

We are excited to be expecting another daughter in August. I know Taylor is going to be a great big sister. But, before I give birth, it’s important now to teach Taylor respect and kindness because pretty soon she will have to share the stage with her baby sister. I’m sure our patience will be tested, but it’s how you deal with those particular situations as parents that truly teach your child how to deal with growing up. After all, they learn by watching you!

With Mother’s Day around the corner, I’m thankful for my mother who taught me many valuable lessons in life that I can now share with my daughters.

Happy Mother’s Day to Danah and all of our Loving Moments moms!