Preparing for the Holidays: Dreaded Questions for New Moms

Preparing for the Holidays: Dreaded Questions for New MomsVisiting with family and gathering with friends is a highlight for many of us during the holiday season. But when celebrations are wrought with hundreds of dreaded questions for new moms, it can wear on your nerves and send your stress levels through the roof.

We’ve prepared a list of potential dreaded questions for new moms that you could be asked by friends, family members and complete strangers during the holidays. Plus we have some tips on how to answer them like the graceful swan you are.

Can I Touch Your Belly?

There’s something about pregnant bellies that make people want to touch when they would never ask such a thing otherwise. Some moms-to-be are not into being touched in this way but others are open to it. Be honest and either politely decline or encourage a gentle rub.

When’s the Baby Due (when you’ve already had the baby)

If you haven’t heard, postpartum bellies may be flabby for awhile, or forever. As you are learning to accept your postpartum body, it can add insult to injury if someone asks you when your baby is due and you’ve already given birth. Even if the comment hurts your feelings, the best way to handle it is to explain you’ve recently had your baby and you’re embracing your new shape. Trust us, the person will feel mortified for asking the question so you needn’t make them feel any worse.

Why are You Breastfeeding Right Here?

Many people have strong opinions about breastfeeding in public. Never let anyone shame you, whether it’s a family member or a rude passerby. Your response can be simple, “I’m feeding my baby because she’s hungry.” You have every right to breastfeed anywhere at any time so hold your head high and be the awesome mom you are.

How Long Do You Plan to Breastfeed?

This nosey question often comes up from people who are unfamiliar with the amazing joy and bond that breastfeeding creates, not to mention the incredible nourishment and benefits it provides for both your baby and yourself. To this question you can say you’re going to breastfeed as long as it’s mutually agreeable to the two people involved.

Why Don’t You Do it This Way?

Older generations are especially keen on offering unsolicited advice about child-rearing. It’s great to learn from more experienced family members but sometimes it can be annoying and unwelcome. If the inquisition continues after a few nods or grateful yet dismissive comments, have a line prepared such as, “isn’t it amazing how things have changed since you raised kids? I feel so lucky to have the option to do things my way.” If you need a more direct approach you can say, “you’ve had your turn, now it’s my turn to raise these children. Thanks for your advice.”

When Will You Have Another?

Your family planning is really no one else’s business so feel free to diffuse the question by saying, “I don’t know,” “when I’m ready,” “I’ve got my hands full right now,” or “we’ll see what the future holds.” These usually do the trick to avoid prying friends and relatives.

Should You Really be Eating That?

In a world obsessed with “bouncing back” after pregnancy, some people in your circle may be judgmental of your postpartum diet. Of course they should mind their business and their manners but you can let them know you’re an adult and entitled to make your own decisions about your health. Breastfeeding moms especially need extra calories so you can make it clear you’re supporting your strength to breastfeed and be a loving caregiver to your baby.